How Uniting Blooms: A Poem on Our Need to Belong

Some say, it’s an ease
A pick up and go
Endlessly open door
Come without calling

Some say, it’s like waking up daily
to sun warming your skin
A perfect circle promise
Restful, rush-less

Some say, it’s in the threads
Familiar intonation of steps across the floor
or half-woken voice
A gaze you can rest in without words

Some say, it’s in the bigness
Jagged coastlines and jade-colored water
Swells of the wild
calling your core to be one

Some say, it’s finding a mirror
Reciprocal tone to the grit
you’ve gone through
A fellow romantic’s lack of logic

Some say, it’s everything
The exhale our souls search for
Push to grow further
Pull dearly close
A place to, space to

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It’s in our skin, you know? That deep-rooted need to sit across from someone, and be seen.

It fuels the craving inside of us to run our fingers across the carpet we used to crawl on; to smell the same blooming spring that marks a time when we too grew; to feel no need to be anything, but the freedom to just be. Our sense of true belonging allows all that you are to be enough - for others, for yourself. It has the great ability to flourish us into the greatest versions of ourselves, or in the lack of it, to crumble us. It’s been recognized for years as one of our core human motivations, and for centuries, as essential to our survival. Whether it be your family, friends, coworkers, or team - belonging to a people, a community, is a need we cannot deny.

Inviting others into our lives, it does so much more than keep us from loneliness; the people in our lives change us. They teach us new ways to see the world; they balance our weaknesses and inspire growth; they can be the muses that allow our imaginations to run wild with new dreams. Humans are most often our driving force of purpose - from the injustices we fight for, to the faces that fill the seats of our dinner table. How is it then, that many nations around the world now recognize the “loneliness epidemic” we seem to be facing? For as indispensable an element of life as belonging is, it’s something so many of us are not experiencing to the full.


In 2017, a study presented by Julianne Holt-Lunstad, PhD, professor of psychology at Brigham Young University, showed that a greater social connection is associated with a 50% reduced risk of early death. In contrast, social isolation, loneliness, or living alone is proving to have an equal, or greater, effect on the risk of premature death as obesity. More and more, we are recognizing that our emotional needs carry as much weight as the physical when it comes to our health. And while the awareness is a huge step forward, will we choose to now move in the way necessary to truly prioritize our mental and emotional needs?

No matter where you are, or how alone you may feel, know that you do belong. We all do. In each of our differences and intricacies, we are tied together. And as far as it can sometimes feel, the connection we need with others is not far off. We all experience joy, hardship, and have the same core needs - no matter our background or circumstances. This month, we will explore the many ways we desire to belong as humans, and how we can find them. We’ll recognize how in this shared search to be part of a larger whole, not only are we are all in this thing together, but we are a much richer palette as one than we ever could be on our own.

Illustrations by Hanna Snyder

Hanna Snyder

Communications Director at Yellow Co.

Hanna is a graphic designer and writer in Los Angeles, and the Communications Director at Yellow Co. Any story well told - whether through design, words, art, or food stirs her. As a romantic about nearly everything, she believes what we bring to our world deserves to be beautiful. Her love is endlessly exploring new ways to express our truest self, and has been trying to figure out her curls since birth.